A Few of The Things My Daddy Taught Me

Me and Daddy

Me and Daddy

We lost Daddy this week after a three-year battle with cancer.

I’m heart broken, and my eyes are puffy, and I can’t breathe through my nose, but amid all of the tears, something wonderful happened. The people he knows came together with family to share stories of a man who influenced and improved the lives of many.

I put faces to the names of the stories he’s told or the phonecalls I’ve overhead. Tonya, Becky, Brian, Butch, Robert, Russel, Bill…only a few of the names of the people who shared wonderful stories of working with my Daddy at Norfolk Southern Railway. To hear that he was the best supervisor, or the most understanding, or the most encouraging lifted my heart, and I smiled and laughed in between the tears.

His church family, Greg, Dewey, Robin, Kathy, Ida Jane and many, many others hugged us with stories of Daddy and his faith. He studied the bible, supported his brethren, and greeted church goers at the early service.

Stacey Daddy

Stacey Daddy

So many facets of a wonderful life bound together with a few simple truths. My Dad was a good man, an honest and fair man, who loved his family, his Lord, and his extended family of friends and coworkers.

I wanted to share a little bit of his humor and life lessons at his funeral today, and I thought I’d share those words with you today.  We were all able to laugh through the tears, and he would have found that quite a great way to end his service.

A Few of the Things My Daddy Taught Me…in no particular order:

  • Always know how much gas is in your car and how much money is in your wallet because you never want to run out of either.

  • Make sure you don’t put diesel in your car unless you’re supposed to.

  • If your daughter breaks an arm, speed limits are only a suggestion.

  • Don’t use the “authorized vehicles only” cut through on the interstate.

  • Drive carefully and call when you get there.

  • Check consumer reports before you buy anything.

  • Clean your tools and put them back where they belong.

  • Mom Daddy Riley

    Mom Daddy Riley

    Don’t overtighten the bolts when you replace a toilet.

  • Fishing isn’t about the catch, it’s about the experience.

  • Don’t shoot your truck when you’re hunting deer.

  • Change your smoke detector batteries when you change your clocks.

  • Stay low if there’s a fire and always have an escape plan.

  • Never walk on the train tracks.

  • Stop at all railway crossings.

  • Believe in the Lord today because tomorrow may be too late.

  • It doesn’t matter where the dinosaurs fit in to the creation theory – it’s faith.

  • Always tip and tip generously.

  • Never treat anyone like you are better than they are.

  • Daddy Lisa

    Daddy and Lisa

    Make a career that makes YOU proud and don’t worry about what other people think.

  • Look up the spelling in the dictionary so you’ll remember it better.

  • A parent is happy when his children are best friends.

  • Treat, love, and discipline your children equally.

  • No price is too high if it makes your wife happy.

  • April Fool’s Day is just about the best day of the year.

  • Laughter makes things better, even if you’re crying.

  • Turn off the lights when you leave the room.

Thank you for celebrating my Daddy with me.

To you, Daddy — I’ve turned off the lights, and I’ll try to find a way to keep laughing.  I’ll do my best to be a person that will make you proud. I love you.

Daddy Mom Lisa and Me

Daddy Mom Lisa and Me

To my readers — if you have a story or “Daddyism” (from mine or yours) to share, please comment below or send me a message. I would love to hear them.

*** This personal blog is comprised solely of the opinions, views, projects, and travels of its author, Stacey Morgan Smith. She is lucky enough to have loving family and friends whom she drags along with her on her adventures and whom she puts to work on her little farm. She uses this blog to help promote living in the mountains of the Shenandoah Valley of Virginia, from Roanoke to the Potomac River.**

6 comments to A Few of The Things My Daddy Taught Me

  • Angela Reynolds

    First of all I’m so sorry for the lost of a great man the way you talked about him. I don’t think I have ever met you but I know lisa through Walmart and if you, your dad and mom are like lisa than you have a wonderful family!! A very caring and loving people. Lisa may not know this but she gave me strength a lot of times when I was weak. I love lisa she is a wonderful friend and I miss her. But what I would like to say is it seems your dad raised you two girls good. My thoughts and prayers are with your family. God bless you and may god help you through this hard time. Hugs and love, Angela Reynolds

  • Mary Spruill

    So great! All the important stuff!

  • Chantal

    Stacey – This is a beautiful tribute to your dad with many good lessons to keep. Laughter through tears does seem appropriate for this list. I am sorry for your loss, and I have your family in my heart and thoughts. Sending love from Georgia to you all.

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